You are not stuck because you don’t know what to do — you’ve read the books, watched the podcasts and asked AI. You’re stuck because each time you try to change, it doesn’t last.
I help you understand why that happens.
I help you see why you repeat the same mistakes.
And to change things, you need EMOTIONAL COURAGE.
That’s what I teach: how to stay grounded while voicing what you feel, what you need and who you are, to give and receive deeper love.
I specialise in helping men trying:
We all have a Unique Set of Commandments (USC) that guides how we operate. They spill out in the words we speak and in the decisions we make: instinctively, out of fear or ignorance.
Together, we voice, decode and question the rules shaping you and relationships. Then you decide which rules you keep, break or rewrite.
I specialise in deep digging that lead to practical and pragmatic action-taking.
I’m a dog with a bone and will ensure you achieve the results you seek.
I talk straight, don’t judge you and follow up on what you say you’ll do.
2023. 53, fourth partner, heart shattered – again.
I fell in love with four great men, all vastly different. I betrayed one. The other three broke me. None of us set out to hurt. And yet, we did.
I’m a teacher, so I looked for lessons and learned. I spent five years coaching women who could not reach the men they loved. Single. Married. Divorced. Widowed. All different. Same problems.
Then I shifted to coaching men because blaming them doesn’t help. What men feel often stays buried. Anger. Silence. Fear. Rejection.
I’m a learner, so I educated myself: Hollis, Perel, Rubinstein, Reeves, Levant, Addis… What I found fuelled an urgency to act.
I’m a writer, so I dug deep. My ex-partner became my muse: the spark for a novel exploring masculinity, love and the rules men inherit that limit them. This turned a lifetime of experiences with men into a new purpose, recasting pain into beauty and shining light on emotions. With him, I learned to listen fully.
Untangling my own pain taught me WHY I failed to see men. Untangling his pain taught me WHAT I failed to see in all the men I loved. Now sitting with men, I show them HOW to see themselves beyond what they’ve been taught.
“I’ve been working with Carole since the summer of 2025 because I was having anger issues in my relationship. Carole has been brilliant. Through our work together, I’ve become more grounded, and no longer storm out of the room when I argue with my girlfriend…”
…She will soon be my wife and we are expecting our first child so I think that’s the best measure of progress.
We argue less, and when we do, I take things less personal than I used to. That is a big change. I have gained a better read on my emotions and developed stronger spatial awareness too. That’s very important to me because as a father I want to be an inspiration to my son.
I’ve always known I’m not perfect, but I never thought that learning about emotions was a thing. I started this journey because my girlfriend pushed me to, and on reflection, that was the right decision. I can keep working on myself and growing.
I’d recommend Carole to anyone looking for someone who is both caring and honest. Her approach is warm and compassionate, but she also isn’t afraid to give me the tough love I need. She’s direct and insightful, and she challenges my assumptions and the way I think in a way that always feels supportive.”
“I really wanted to thank you for the positive impact you’ve had on my life. So many things have changed for the better since our sessions. I have to admit, I was a little sceptical at first, but your professionalism, your ability to truly listen, and the way you guided me…”
…made all the difference. You helped me open up to myself, better understand my emotions, and take more ownership of my role as a man in my relationship. But perhaps one of the most valuable things was simply having somewhere I could speak freely, without feeling judged. As a man, that’s not always easy to find, and I didn’t realise how much I needed it.
I’m truly grateful for everything you’ve helped me discover and work through, and I genuinely hope more men and couples get the opportunity to experience sessions with you.
“What we do not know, controls us.”
James Hollis, Under Saturn’s Shadow: The Wounding and Healing of Men
AI only knows the story you tell it.
My job is to find the blind spots in that story, challenge your conclusions and point out what you’re not telling me. AI can give you an answer at 03:00 am. I am interested in what you do with that answer every day.
You can’t. Yet.
First, you answer a few questions about where you are and what you want to change. Then we jump onto a free 30-minute call. You decide whether you can trust me. I decide whether I can genuinely help you.
We speak for one hour each week on WhatsApp video.
Between sessions, you can reach me if you need urgent help.
I also send podcasts worth watching or listening to as we go.
I only work with five clients max at a time to make sure I’m available and fully present.
Because nothing changes by leaving it alone.
“The goal isn’t to build a better defense against negative thoughts; the goal is to realise you don’t need the defense in the first place.”
Dr K
A single session, or any package, can be bought as a gift. He books directly with me and chooses his own times. What he says in the sessions stays between him and me.
About ten minutes. I read every application myself. If I don’t think I can help you, I will tell you and I won’t take your money.
Once I have your answers, we speak for thirty minutes, free. You decide whether you can trust me. I decide whether I can genuinely help you.
Yes. We work on finding and keeping love as one job, not two. That includes the practical end of it: e.g. I read your dating profile, tell you how it lands, how you speak about yourself, etc. I get all my insights from my Deep Love conversations, where women talk about what they want.
Yes, when you want to. We work on saying what you want and hearing what she wants without either of you shutting down. I also give direct advice on giving your partner greater pleasure and offer a course on How to open to Pleasure as part of my 24-session coaching package.
Both ask why. But therapy is for people who have both a mental illness and a problem. If you only have the latter, coaching is for you.
Fair point. Complete the questionnaire and speak to me. We’ll work out whether coaching would actually help. It’s free. I derive no meaning or pride from working with men I cannot help.
Only where it explains something you are doing now. Our focus is on moving forward and applying pragmatic solutions.
Plant medicine, breathwork, microdosing, etc. Bring those experiences with you. I’ve done many myself. We look at what came up and how you apply what you learnt from them in your everyday life.
Enter your email and the first chapter arrives in your inbox.
Your email is handled by Kit and used to send you the chapter and occasional news about the book. Unsubscribe any time. See the Privacy Policy.
Tell me more, book a call. I want to make sure you don’t waste your money and that I can really help.